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Posted on 2007.04.16 at 22:00


snapper521 at 2007-06-24 21:26 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Women and bad boys

*laugh* Good one. :-P

He's going to be in the same town as me, and theoretically we could meet up, however I have said no because of how... wrong, it feels.

I have a gut instinct, and I trust it. In the past it has warned me about "bad boys" and has saved me from being hurt, forced to do something I don't want to etc... So I am trusting my gut this time.
leonardii at 2007-06-24 22:38 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Women and bad boys

Your "gut" instinct is the leftover primal capacities that we once held as cave dwellers whose total lives depended upon their "instinct" guiding, directing, and showing them an easier way to stay alive, fight in battles and just to come up with new "ideas" (learning experiences) that taught them how to make clay pots to store oils, waters, wines, etc.

Now, in the modern age - we don't exactly have to hunt for our food, kill, it, grill it, then eat - all the while keeping at bay rival tribes who "wanted to easy way out" and decided to raid smaller vllages, kill the men and boys, keep the women as slave lovers, and steal all of the tribes crafted items like tools, clay dishes and pots, adn leave the old and sick to just die. But in the modern world, we hve people wit more than enough wealth to share and cre for the billions of orphaned and sometimes badly maimed children. But they don't care... they scavange from the other tribes - the masses of people who pay good money to see a movie or sports evens. The players get millions, live i uber lucury homes, use gold and diamon studdet cell phones, and drive and wear the most ecpensive cars and clothes made on this earth. What a bunch of vulures.

So, to get to my point - your gut instinct is, if you listen to it properly and carefully, probably at least 955% effective. *Trust* the gut... *ignore* the bullshit. Your life will thank you for it later on down the road... if not really soon! :)
snapper521 at 2007-06-26 01:47 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Women and bad boys

It already has thanked me. :-)

I have always deduced that my gut is derived from how long I was allowed to think and act like a child.

Truly, I was a child for my entire childhood and was not forced to become old before my time like other children.

I have always had a good gut instinct. Always. (not just about humans, but animals too)
leonardii at 2007-06-28 03:36 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Women and bad boys

It's good to trust the gut. I've went against mine several times.... and everything always ended up badly.

And I kept hearing those word "Dammit, if I would have only listened to what my instincts (gut) was trying to tell me... I would have ended up in this awful mess.:

The instincts that we gave - they grow, develop, and become more acutely sharp as we age. Perhaps that why there is so much wisdom in an old man. He's seen and done much more than we have, therefore, his instincts are more finally developed and he knows the difference between bullshit and the truth. Now - if we could only have it when we're youn... we'd do alright!!
snapper521 at 2007-06-29 19:34 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Women and bad boys

It is because we can not be as wise as the elderly that the human race will never truly progress. It will constantly go through the same old cycles until Christ returns. (the tribulation)
leonardii at 2007-06-30 17:55 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Women and bad boys

Very wise words indeed!

I'm superbly and greatly impressed!

You are quite unique yourself.

And I thought myself to be quite the philosopher. Hmmm, I may have just met my equal.

We shall see, my new friend, as time passes...
snapper521 at 2007-06-30 23:32 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Women and bad boys


Thank you.

Best not allow Tomas the Tomato to hear you praising me Leon... :-)
leonardii at 2007-07-01 08:04 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Women and bad boys

Best not allow Tomas the Tomato to hear you praising me Leon... :-)

Why? Should I be afraid?

I will praise whom I please - especially those deserving of wonderful accolades.

Me? Afraid? Not likely.

snapper521 at 2007-07-01 22:40 (UTC) (Link)

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Tomato is touchy about my intelligence. He enjoys reminding me that I am not as smart as him. However I've pointed out on many occasions that he is smart, but that we just have different areas of wisdom.

He truly is a good friend, merely enjoys putting me down, helps him feel important I suppose. And it really doesn't effect me very much. once in awhile it does, but not often anymore. :-)
leonardii at 2007-07-02 02:50 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Women and bad boys

From these first weeks of getting to know you - I think you have a source of great intelligence and some very good wisdom to go along with it.

Please, for the sake of your own self confidence, if people you believe to have intelligence and wisdom are telling you that you have the same (intelligence & wisdom), then by all means... *all* others who tell you differently are insignificant.

Wise people do not go around boasting about how much wiser than they are of others, nor do they go to great lengths to put down people regarding their own wisdom and intelligence. For those sorts of insults are plainly jealous, rude, and derogatory comments to make the insulter feel greater about himself.

For people who have the self assurance and confidence that they have some sense of brains and wisdom - they don't go around telling others how great *they* are and how little others have.

That may sound contrite and extremely simple - but like you said, at first those words affected you. And I know how they've affected others.

My sister was married to a man way too many years. He called her stupid, ignorant, and he was "smart" and knew the ways of the world.

She was a cosmetologist all her life - and that was all she knew... and she was living by herself with two children to support and all she could afford was to live in government assisted housing and - and she was going nowhere in life.

I convinced her to let me help put a resume together for her (I did a little doctoring, but that's fair game, I think). Anyway, I got her a job just as a simple administrative assistant. She had never touched a keyboard or a mouse at this point. But in a couple of weeks, she was using word - simple enough to learn. And pretty soon after that, she was already learning to make spreadsheets in excel.

Now, she's running her own business with a wonderful new husband, she's gone to college, and almost has completed her AS degree. And she has taken computer courses in Powerpoint and Coreldraw - and now knows these programs far better than I do... and I was once *her* teacher, and now she's mine.

So - I know how easy it is for people to be beaten down. And it's hard to come up. So if you are telling me that you've been beaten down before. So please, just don't listen to that *bullshit*.

Listen *only* to the positive, because it's much harder for people to make positive (and kind) remarks than it is to make negative (and unkind) remarks.

If people are taking their time to tell you that you impress them, that they think you are intelligent, and they are touched by your wisdom - those are *very* precious words to be always treasured and to be kept close to your heart (lest you start to lose hope) and to your mind (lest you start to truly believe the negative).

I'm proud to hear you say that those words don't affect you as often anymore. I'd be more proud to hear you say they don't affect you at all.

But let that process continue of keeping the positive and disregarding the negative and soon your mind will be shielded by those who are inept.

And keep building yourself with knowledge, studying all things, and all forms of philosophy because the wisdom in one sentence of one book you may not fully grasp, but the same context in another book may bring to your mind a true epiphany!

You don't have to be religious in any way - or even be a Christian. But reading the "Psalms" and "Proverbs" in the Protestant Bible are valuable words to any person of any creed. And if you can get yourself a Catholic Bible, there are two more books - one called "Wisdom," and my favorite "Sirach" will fill your head with heaping amounts of gentle but firm wisdom. Starting with table manners, friendship, caution regarding associates, the proper use of wealth, moderation, humility, advice concerning women, once again another chapter on friendship, and of course seeking the Divine and the value of wisdom itself. "Sirach" is truly one of my books that I refer to when I need to research a particular point of view on philosophy. Like I said - you don't have to be religious or even Christian to appreciate the words it has regarding treating guests, friends, associates, and even table manners! A really fun book to just read.

ehowton at 2007-07-02 15:29 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Women and bad boys

That is completely and utterly true. You're a kind and gentle man. These are words I live by! I do NOT suffer fools - I have no time. If someone around you is going to be negative all the time, I have no use for them.

I hope she reads, and understands your words.
leonardii at 2007-07-02 17:29 (UTC) (Link)

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Thank you very much for the very kind words, sir.

Your words too - I treasure as well. I listen heartedly, for I know you to be a worldly man, sophisticated and cultured, intelligent and wise. And very witty to boot. :)

I've said it before - compliments from you are worth 10 of others. :)

Some people are like animals - and you may treat them as such:

A whip is for the horse, a bridle for the donkey, And a rod for the back of fools.
--Proverbs 26:3

Some people are stubborn and prone to laziness. That's why the boss has to pull out the "whip" and get people to work. Some people are just faithful workmen - but they are lost and need to be led by others. And the rest - they deserve to be beaten within one inch of their life. And they usually do as they are foolish enough to meet up with the wrong person one day.

Now, as a Catholic, I'm not one to usually take scripture and turn into a fundamentalist and take the words all literally. In my opinion, that would be fool hearty - all though some sects of Christianity do just that. They take an English translation from scripture written over thousands of years ago (translated through several languages), in a completely different context and cultural setting - and take the translation and apply to this modern age. I just don't believe in that.

I mean, are we supposed to believe that we must drag a homosexual out into the street and "stone" him/her to death because "The Bible tells us so?" Nonsense.

But some things never change over the many years. One of those is the nature of people. Jealousy, greed, envy, hatred, stubbornness. Unfortunately, as many good qualities there are in a human beings - the worst can show their ugly side quite readily and easily.

But as for the Provers quote, some words, well, they just seem to be ageless and timeless. And they just make good sense.

We still listen to listen to the wise words of Nietzsche, Sun Tzu, Lao Tze and the "Tao Te Ching," The Buddha, Christ - all good philosophers... and all have a good message to say. Love is ultimate and forever, hatred and anger only cause undo destruction, violence, suffering, and pain.

Shield yourself with love, and the badness will break as easily as water against the shore.
snapper521 at 2007-07-05 23:52 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Women and bad boys

I have never read the catholic bible. Since I've been raised conservative Lutheran -- it is frowned upon to read "the other bible".

However :-) I can get my hands on one if I try hard enough, so I will keep that in mind. :-)

I am a woman of faith and have been raised in a Christian manner all of my life. So it is nothing to tell me go read the psalms and proverbs.

Proverbs is honestly my favorite book. I turn to it whenever I am feeling down and in need of guidance from him.

Anyway -- :-)

Thanks for the advice Leon. :-) I won't be removing Tomas from my friends. I rather enjoy him, it is only his negative comments once in awhile.

By the way -- it is only when Tomas does not pay attention to how I am feeling and just plows forward like a bull in a china shop that his negatives hurt me. And since he has not done that for literal months... I truly believe that it is either no longer an issue, or is close to being a non-existent issue.

BTW -- Eric Howton and PhotoGoot have both given me similar advice. Yet again this is an example of how men of similar age think in a similar manner. :-)
leonardii at 2007-07-11 03:49 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Women and bad boys

I don't think age has the defining point. I've worked in many an office with men from 20 - 60 years of age. Each one displayed their own level of intelligence, wisdom, and maturity. I was shocked to see so many men with so many more years than me show such an utter lack of all that I just mentioned.

No - I think it rather has to do with *what* kind of men we are. Caring, nurturing, kind, gentle, and yes - we are men with some great experience having traveled the globe. This kind of man, regardless of age will probably never try to fill your head with garbage - only good common sense and the zeal to seek out and find intelligence and wisdom of your own. Good for you - reading Proverbs. Like I said, in the Catholic Bible, the two books "Wisdom" and "Sirach" are much more explicit in their language, which makes them actually quite fun to read.

For instance, on Table Etiquette:
Sirach 31:27
"Wine is very life to man if taken in moderation. Does he really live who lacks the wine which was created for his joy"

Sirach 31:28
"Joy of heart, good cheer and merriment are drunk freely at the proper time."

Sirach 31:31
"Rebuke not your neighbor when wife is served, nor put him to shame in his merry; Use no harsh words with him and distress him not in the presence of others."

But also remember:
Sirach 31:29
"Headache, bitterness and disgrace is wine drunk amid anger and strife."
Sirach 31:30
"More and more wine is a snare for the fool; it lessens his strength and multiplies his wounds."

Now, all of that - that is just plain good common sense and use of ones brains. And wasn't that just a little bit of fun to read. Even in the Bible, it mentions headache as punishment. They knew what a hangover was... and I would be very curious to know some of their Biblical "hangover cures" for the fool who drinks himself stupid. :)

Anyway... you have your right to compare us "men" as you wish. But I prefer that you realize that it is not age that brings us to give you our take on life... it is from "worldly" experience. Not so many men of our age have it in such great quantities. I'm not saying we are the wise men from The East Orient, but they too traveled far and were called wise men. So think on that.
snapper521 at 2007-07-11 21:32 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Women and bad boys

Men are, and will forever remain, complicated. :-P

I know the man I'm looking for... now to just find him. :-)
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