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Recompense

Posted on 2008.04.16 at 09:30
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She banned him. He admitted to me later, he was just trying to have some fun, but she took it wrong.

He banned her. She admitted to me later, she was just trying to have some fun, but he took it wrong.

*sadface*

Its time for a change. She's unbanned him! Can he find it in his heart to unban her? Its so easy to point out other's faults. The greater challenge, is to finds traits we admire in others, and perhaps work on mutual interests first. Do they have anything in common?

melancthe's strengths as I see them:

  • She's very witty.

  • And polite.

  • She likes filmscores!

  • She's smart.



schpydurx's strengths as I see them:

  • He's loyal.

  • And longsuffering.

  • He likes filmscores!

  • He's passionate.



I see a win.

Recently, schpydurx intoned lament for neutral ground in which to foster discussion. Please, allow this post to be that discussion place. Let's work on building up, rather than tearing down.

And I am not without blood on my hands. I enjoy the thrill of the hunt. I say and do things, terrible things sometimes, in hopes of righting wrongs. I've done a lot, God knows I've tried; To find the truth, I've even lied. So if there are bad feelings, blame me. I'm the foo. Fight me.

Can't we just all get along?

Comments:


Melancthe the Woe, So-Called
melancthe at 2008-04-16 14:49 (UTC) (Link)
It's not that schpydurx and I can't get along, it's that I'm frequently saddened by his behaviour towards other people. I don't understand why he feels the need to behave the way he does towards others.

The latest drama, for instance. He screwed up: accused an innocent person (innocent of that particular crime, at any rate), and likely embarrassed her terribly. I just wanted to know why he couldn't say, "Oh shit, I messed up! I'm really sorry!", and actually make amends instead of double-speak apologies and blaming of other people. That was what I found so odd: I've normally noticed that schpydurx is good at admitting culpability, and this seemed so out of character for him.

But when I pushed him on this (with a little too much snark, it would seem) - after all, he hadn't defriended me, although I'd defriended him for being annoying a couple of months ago - he got angry and defensive.

I'm a horrible, awful person at times, and I freely confess it. Hell, I even like being horrible and awful. But injustice bothers me more than I like to admit. And this was injustice. Whatever my flaws (and I have many), I will always stand up to fight against what I perceive as unfair treatment.

Please, allow this post to be that discussion place. Let's work on building up, rather than tearing down.

Your wish is my command, good sir.
Melancthe the Woe, So-Called
melancthe at 2008-04-16 14:50 (UTC) (Link)
Oh, thank you for calling me witty and smart. ;)
ehowton
ehowton at 2008-04-16 15:04 (UTC) (Link)
Thank you for taking this important first step. While its easy to see the flaws of others (in this case, the lack of a proper apology) I can see that this action, even though it wasn't against you, hurt terribly.

With someone as passionate as schpydurx, the right course of action always comes in time - usually not immediately. Passionate people require a, "cooling-off" period as they get so fired up. If they didn't, the passion would die on the vine.

I feel certain that he'll do the right thing, when he's ready. And we can be thankful that though at times hot-headed, that his heart is always in the right place.
This Is Me, Ten Sticks
lehah at 2008-04-16 16:09 (UTC) (Link)
At the risk of throwing in my two cents when its not called for, schpydurx has always struck me as a goddamned godless grease-shit poster who enjoys being that inexpressible combination of both arrogance and willfully ignorant. Everytime he has something to say its done with the same intonations as a young know-it-all child trying to impress an adult over some trivial nonsense.

This opinion is, of course, based on what I've seen him post in journal comments. He could cure cancer for all I know but that would still mean he comes off like a stiff prick as a person. And thats what we base our relationships on, isn't it? How someone "comes off as"?

I don't buy that "Well, you need to know him" banter either. Why would I want to get to know someone if they're a jerk? I have enough jerks in my life and why would I need one more? They're not pokemon.

Edited at 2008-04-16 04:09 pm (UTC)
ehowton
ehowton at 2008-04-16 16:44 (UTC) (Link)
I don't disagree on any particular point, and I am a very strong supporter of your last paragraph.

I suppose then that this is a case of "If he's not kind to the waiter, he's not kind."

I'm not here to pick sides, rather to allow a neutral forum in which case your comments are most welcome. Thank you.
Melancthe the Woe, So-Called
melancthe at 2008-04-16 16:48 (UTC) (Link)
A++.
Tomas Gallucci
schpydurx at 2008-04-16 17:21 (UTC) (Link)
I want love on my own terms.
Melancthe the Woe, So-Called
melancthe at 2008-04-16 18:54 (UTC) (Link)
Coincidentally, I want a pony.
Tomas Gallucci
schpydurx at 2008-04-16 17:22 (UTC) (Link)
Why did you pick that godaweful screencap? Something from When Harry Met Sally would be more appropos.
This Is Me, Ten Sticks
lehah at 2008-04-16 18:56 (UTC) (Link)
Anyone who doesn't want to repeatedly anally violate Molly Ringwald during an 80s movie has to be gay.

Theres a law or something.
Tomas Gallucci
schpydurx at 2008-04-18 02:08 (UTC) (Link)
She banned him. He admitted to me later, he was just trying to have some fun, but she took it wrong.
He banned her. She admitted to me later, she was just trying to have some fun, but he took it wrong.


I wrote an endless novel
Called See Jane Love and Hate

Edited at 2008-04-18 02:09 am (UTC)
Tomas Gallucci
schpydurx at 2008-04-18 03:05 (UTC) (Link)
schpydurxintoned lament for neutral ground
I did no such thing, sir. All I said was that melancthe can use her blog as a platform and she can use anyone's comments as a platform but I have no intentions of letting her use my blog as a platform.

You have twisted my words and incorrectly quoted me. That, sir, is slander. I don't want to have this conversation which is why aside from work, I'm almost two days responding to it.

You, sir, have orchestrated this whole shenanigan for your own amusement. I hope you burn in hell for it.

P. S. Your Rodney King philosphy of flowers and free love doesn't cut it in the real world.
ehowton
ehowton at 2008-04-18 12:48 (UTC) (Link)
This would hold a lot more water if I hadn't had to explain to you what transpired.
Tomas Gallucci
schpydurx at 2008-04-18 03:20 (UTC) (Link)
melancthe's strengths as I see them:

She's very witty.
And polite.
She likes filmscores!
She's smart.



In short, she's cool, the exact opposite of me everything I'm not and everything that people wished I would be.

This truly is a fish-out-of-water scenario. Why don't you give up?
ehowton
ehowton at 2008-04-18 12:47 (UTC) (Link)
Why don't you give up?

Fuck it! Yes! That's your answer for everything! Tattoo it on your forehead! Your revolution is over. Condolences. The bums lost. My advice is to do what your parents did; get a job, sir. The bums will always lose. Do you hear me? THE BUMS WILL ALWAYS LOSE!
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