May 17th, 2007



With the IBM laptop tucked neatly away in its bag adjacent the AirCard where it belongs, I finally put my interim office together! I'm running the Mac & the XP box off a 'flip' KVM and have my Solaris server up and running (give DNS a couple of days to propagate). As everything I own is in storage, and having used two dissimilarly sized filing cabinets and a closet door as my last 'desk' (with the rack-mount Solaris box between the shorter filing cabinet and the closet door) at my last office, I finally bit the bullet and purchased a 6' table from Sam's. This is something I will be able to use over and over. All-in-all, very adequate. drax0r set his desk up the day before, ensuring the cable modem was to his standards (3.7mbps down) and rebroadcasting wireless throughout the house. We're back-to-back in the dining room 'office.' It's nice to have iTunes back.



drax0r discovered the Anna, TX forums - so we've both been active on there. Kinda getting to know your neighbors in a creepy online sort of way. they even have separate forums for each subdivision in town - lots of chatter on there. Anna also appears to be the single seller of liquor in the county. Nice! Though via the forums, we've discovered them to be the bane of the residents, after visiting a few of them, I've noticed that the exclusivity of them in the county, plus the sheer number of them in this small town, makes for very competitive pricing. I bought a new bottle of Scotch at a fantastic price, and will be updating my Scotch Review with it shortly, as well as two others I have yet to add, the Glenfiddich 15, and the bottle of Glenmorangie 12 drax0r presented to me upon my arrival.

crowy prepared a fantastic dinner of fried chicken, mashed potatoes, and green beans for dinner this evening. I tired to make a gravy out of the drippings, but it turned out to be more oil than broth and didn't turn out. Despite lack of gravy on the meal, everything was eaten. Last night was her famous spaghetti, spoiled by the addition of too much crushed red pepper. Oddly enough, it was all eaten as well! The kitchen is spacious enough for multiple cooks; a wonderful change from my last place of residence. Soon, the grill will come...

I hope you all are doing well and having a fantastic evening!
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    Pirates Of The Caribbean: At World's End
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Return of the King


During the early part of my marriage my wife would often complain that we didn't have anything in common. This of course is an age-old game married couples play to get their spouse to form an impromptu list of similarities for the purpose, I assume, of ensuring love is true. Yes, I played the game. But over time I've discovered that similar interests have nothing to do with loving your spouse - or even keeping a friendship for that matter. No, those things don't really matter when the chips are down.

I've met people in real life and online who's interests mirror my own, and yet despite our affection for the same things, a friendship never materialized. Conversely, I've met people who couldn't be more different than myself where our activities and hobbies are concerned, and I've made lifelong friends.

What does it boil down to? Personality? Values? Morals? Any single one is unlikely, since we all have probably maintained relationships with people who differ in one or more of the above from us, and yet despite it all, get along well. Meyers-Briggs differences, compassionate/intolerant, pessimistic/optimistic, rude/polite, those who are easily offended and those who are not. You'll still find people who can traverse those barriers willingly and successfully.

Is it then those who fall diametrically opposite on all the personality traits AND have differing values & morals? Probably. There comes a point...there always comes a point.

I tell my wife we don't require things in common. Sure, they're nice to have, and yes, we have them. We enjoy many of the same things. We also enjoy many different things. But what's important is we're the same. That's what keeps us a loving couple. We both strive for the same goals, we're both committed to each other, and to our family. We're both willing to make the hard sacrifices to reach our objective. We balance each other well. These things are far more important than basing a relationship on what we have in common.

Passion grows in marriage, it doesn't wane. Contentment is a wonderful gift.


Thank you for your strength when I need it
Though few and far between
I sometimes draw upon it without your knowledge
To embattle myself; to fortify me

Thank you for your tenderness
Omnipresent even at war
It emcompasses and soothes me
Even if I am remiss to show you

Thank you for your character
It defines you
Above all, I admire that the most
And count upon it when my own in is question

I cannot give you the world
But I offer you my half
And it is only mine to give
Because of you.
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