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Posted on 2008.10.30 at 11:20

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glodowg
glodowg at 2008-10-30 19:58 (UTC) (Link)
I rarely respond when you post of "him" because it is just not worth getting worked up over.

However, all I could read in this post is about him. Perhaps I should reread and remove that point of reference.

I oft feel that the younger generation has a "you owe me" attitude. I never quit took it the way you have. Perhaps, again, I need to change my reference point.

hmmmmmmmmmmm

ehowton
ehowton at 2008-10-30 20:51 (UTC) (Link)
On the contrary, you rarely respond at all, though I'm always delighted when you do. The topic came up again today about adding him back into the mix, but I realized its me who has the problem, not him. You see, I've enjoyed the serene interaction with other adults since he's been banned, and discovered that I am the one at fault when he comments. I don't like who I become when he begins his dance of asininity, as I am unable to ignore it. Every other time in my life that I have been faced with such irrevocable turmoil, I simply choose to separate myself from that which afflicts me, and this shouldn't be any different.

Generation Y (or as celtmanx likes to remind us, Generation "Why" as in "Why do I have to work for a living") is something which has been discussed in great detail within the annals of this blog - mostly in the comments though there are a couple of entries on it as at one time I had a rather wide-range of readers. But as my journal often imitates life, friends come and go.
texas_tangent
texas_tangent at 2008-10-30 22:12 (UTC) (Link)
I like that picture of House.

Personally I am basically ambivalent as to the matter of adding him back to the mix.

I completely understand why he would be unsavory around here.

You can only ever do that which your heart leads you to do anyway.

ehowton
ehowton at 2008-10-30 22:18 (UTC) (Link)
Adapt. Overcome. Improvise. Its the only solid course of action.
texas_tangent
texas_tangent at 2008-10-30 22:29 (UTC) (Link)
Do you do them in that order or is that independent on the way you are feeling that day?
ehowton
ehowton at 2008-10-30 22:43 (UTC) (Link)
So very true! It often doesn't go that smoothly, does it? I usually end up tossing a bit of 'grousing' between all the steps myself, not that it helps.
(Anonymous) at 2008-10-31 00:10 (UTC) (Link)
Actually I found grousing to be very therapeutic in some cases. Other cases, it is better to just let it drop and push it far from your mind. That way any malingering bad thoughts can do no more harm. After time has passed it becomes easy to recollect what has happened and come up with a new and better solution. I know that you do not toss and turn at night about this decision, it is just something that in your head, must be reconciled sooner or later.

He has done much harm to some people here. Not physically but emotionally and that takes a much longer time to heal. I can see where some people would not want him to join in the discussion again. It helps me to be ambivalent toward it all now because my belief in whether he should or not will not help you decide. That is the reason why earlier I said that only YOU can make that decision.

Time has passed. Has enough time passed to "let him back into the fold"? Who knows? Some people he did unforgivable things to and it will take them time to forgive and forget. I know that solution is not as easy as it sounds because I had to do it myself, Toward family nonetheless, Friends are a different matter. Only you know how good of a friend he has been to you. You also have to figure the amount of time that you two have been friends. How many chances did you give him to change his behavior? Anything that has played into your joined past as friends would have to be considered as well. His attitude as well would have to be evaluated. Has he changed or is this an act to just be accepted again? Is he willing to not cause the trouble that got him booted to begin with?

I know that in the end the punishment will fit the crime. Even with punishments though, Most of the time, they do end. Unless you like beating a dead horse. If that is the case then carry on!
texas_tangent
texas_tangent at 2008-10-31 00:12 (UTC) (Link)
The above comment was mine. For some reason it did not show. OOPS
ehowton
ehowton at 2008-10-31 00:15 (UTC) (Link)

You knew it was coming...

texas_tangent
texas_tangent at 2008-10-31 00:24 (UTC) (Link)

Re: You knew it was coming...

I did, I did indeed.
glodowg
glodowg at 2008-10-31 15:09 (UTC) (Link)
you rarely respond at all

Ahhh, see I do not feel the need to respond just so that you know I have been here. I try to reserve my comments to something that contributes or a humorous jest. I am a woman of few words!
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