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Posted on 2008.10.30 at 11:20


(Anonymous) at 2008-10-31 00:10 (UTC) (Link)
Actually I found grousing to be very therapeutic in some cases. Other cases, it is better to just let it drop and push it far from your mind. That way any malingering bad thoughts can do no more harm. After time has passed it becomes easy to recollect what has happened and come up with a new and better solution. I know that you do not toss and turn at night about this decision, it is just something that in your head, must be reconciled sooner or later.

He has done much harm to some people here. Not physically but emotionally and that takes a much longer time to heal. I can see where some people would not want him to join in the discussion again. It helps me to be ambivalent toward it all now because my belief in whether he should or not will not help you decide. That is the reason why earlier I said that only YOU can make that decision.

Time has passed. Has enough time passed to "let him back into the fold"? Who knows? Some people he did unforgivable things to and it will take them time to forgive and forget. I know that solution is not as easy as it sounds because I had to do it myself, Toward family nonetheless, Friends are a different matter. Only you know how good of a friend he has been to you. You also have to figure the amount of time that you two have been friends. How many chances did you give him to change his behavior? Anything that has played into your joined past as friends would have to be considered as well. His attitude as well would have to be evaluated. Has he changed or is this an act to just be accepted again? Is he willing to not cause the trouble that got him booted to begin with?

I know that in the end the punishment will fit the crime. Even with punishments though, Most of the time, they do end. Unless you like beating a dead horse. If that is the case then carry on!
texas_tangent at 2008-10-31 00:12 (UTC) (Link)
The above comment was mine. For some reason it did not show. OOPS
ehowton at 2008-10-31 00:15 (UTC) (Link)

You knew it was coming...

texas_tangent at 2008-10-31 00:24 (UTC) (Link)

Re: You knew it was coming...

I did, I did indeed.
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