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Death & Transfiguration

Posted on 2010.03.14 at 13:30
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My wife's cousin had taken a turn for the worse so we left early for our Spring Break trip to Wichita to meet with the gathering family from the four corners of the nation for vigil and support.

We didn't make it.

We were in Oklahoma City when we got the call. Our support mission had just turned into a funeral run. Thankfully, my wife had the foresight to have us pack for such an event "just in case" so at the bare minimum, we were prepared in that respect. With so many family and friends already in place and enroute for cooking and cleaning and coordinating, I offered my services as chauffeur and all that next day, from morning to night, ferried the family all over the city in preparation, sharing stories of the recently departed; Laughing & crying. It was one of those stressful times in which the extreme physical and emotional exhaustion was also very therapeutic.

That morning my son, defiant as he was at grandma's (and thus assuming he was no longer subject to my rules), decided to - I shit you not - run through the house *and* slide down the banister. Well, at least he attempted to slide down the banister. I nipped that shit in the bud.

And got called "grouchy" by the other adults in the house.

Undermined, I went about my day until we go a call from my hysterical mother-in-law. My daughter had "fallen" and cut open her head. Learning quickly from my experiences with my son I chose to NOT go to the emergency room, rather hit one of those "Emergency Care" places you usually find in strip malls ($20 co-pay + seen immediately vs. $100 co-pay + 3-hour wait). This one came highly recommended and the doctors were fantastic. Also, during their assessment they interrogated her as to how the injury occurred and it won't surprise anyone here to discover she admitted her and her brother were sliding down the banister when she fell off.

What a long day.

The next morning, my wife's maternal grandmother was rushed to the hospital and a massive gathering of the other side of the family was underway, which also included us - we were caught between the two eddies and there we remain. At least according to most mythologies and principles these things only come in threes so we should be safe for the time being.

In all of this I did manage to pop into Dillard's and walk away with four (4) of my precious $145 Polo Rugby shirts on clearance for $30 apiece. Problem is the XXL's were too large. I'm down to a XL :)


Melancthe the Woe, So-Called
melancthe at 2010-03-14 20:18 (UTC) (Link)
Oh no, I'm sorry about your cousin-in-law. Condolences to you and catttitude.

That said, I would also have nipped the banister-sliding in the bud, likely with frowny faces and much vehemence. Go you! :)
ehowton at 2010-03-14 22:07 (UTC) (Link)
Thanks. Though it has been a great opportunity for the occasional drink, and that in and of itself has been, if not a condolence, at least a mild stress-reducer.

And sadly, I haven't found this one yet. I shall remain diligent!
irulan_amy at 2010-03-14 20:19 (UTC) (Link)
Wow. I don't even know what to say except cliches. I'm sorry for your wife/family's loss. I'm glad your daughter is okay. I bet they won't be sliding down bannisters again anytime soon.

How is your wife's grandmother?
ehowton at 2010-03-14 22:15 (UTC) (Link)
Thanks. And yes, six stitches in the head teaches long-reaching empirical lessons I never could :P

As far as her grandmother, we'll know more later as they're still doing tests (and tests and tests...)
kat_rowe at 2010-03-14 22:31 (UTC) (Link)
aside from being down a shirt-size, sounds like a crazy-stressful time. you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers
ehowton at 2010-03-15 00:09 (UTC) (Link)
Thanks. Its been even more fun since because all my mother-in-law's brothers and sisters have made HER the responsible one, and she's wearing out to the point of frustration which makes staying at her house even more exciting. No one knows what's going to happen next!

I bought a very small bottle of 18-year-old Scotch for times just like this ;)
kat_rowe at 2010-03-15 00:23 (UTC) (Link)
yikes *hugs you* enjoy the scotch (or, at least, i hope it takes the edge off). hang in there *more hugs*
CeltManX, Devlin O' Coileáin
celtmanx at 2010-03-15 02:58 (UTC) (Link)
Give Lady L my love and tell her, her and her cousin are in my prayers.

Sorry to hear of Little girls injury. Some lessons are hard learned.

Awesome score on the shirts!!!
ehowton at 2010-03-15 11:49 (UTC) (Link)
Will do, thanks. She assumed you'd followed us, and were sitting out in the field on her parents acreage watching us.
CeltManX, Devlin O' Coileáin
celtmanx at 2010-03-15 13:55 (UTC) (Link)
If I only had the time.
This Is Me, Ten Sticks
lehah at 2010-03-15 02:59 (UTC) (Link)
Holy mother. I ... don't even know what to say to this entry that approaches anything reasonable. I'm just plain sorry, man.
ehowton at 2010-03-15 11:50 (UTC) (Link)
heh - Thanks. Its like the Un-Vacation: Spring Break from hell!
anakngtinapa at 2010-03-15 03:23 (UTC) (Link)
The look on your daughter's face broke my heart a little bit. I get into accidents a lot, I understand her pain. :S

I'm sorry to hear about all the sad news. I hope it gets better for all of you soon.
ehowton at 2010-03-15 11:54 (UTC) (Link)
Would you believe she was up and running around playing with her friends half an hour later? Her misery was short lived. But I now have a great tool at my disposal, "Remember the time you slid down the banister and split your head open? Yeah, same thing with this. DON'T DO IT."

Me too, thanks!
Lelf Treperra
ubet_cha at 2010-03-15 19:23 (UTC) (Link)
Your poor wife. I’m sorry about her cousin and hope her grandmother is ok.

There are days where kids seem to be all about Family Drama and extra bills. I am glad your daughter is ok.

Nice problem to have with the shirts.
ehowton at 2010-03-15 21:44 (UTC) (Link)
Thanks, she's having a rough go of it - still no word on the grandmother. As I'm the second husband and not as emotionally attached to these extended family members, I'm able to pilot this massive craft fairly confidently, but seeing my wife's stress/pain isn't easy - her cousin was our age.

We did manage one day of the four of us practicing our taekwondo forms outside - while my father-in-law watched amused from the sidelines with a cup of coffee. I can't believe how much I miss my routine of busy; the routine part of it making it stress-free.

With our complete break from our fairly strict eating schedule, I'm hoping I'll be able to actually wear the XL's by the time I get back home :P I do so love them.
Lelf Treperra
ubet_cha at 2010-03-16 17:55 (UTC) (Link)
Yeah I can only imagine what your wife may be going through, losing family is hard.

Hey I am glad you mentioned taekwondo again. I meant to tell you in your post last week how cool I thought that was. My oldest tried it for a year and then quit. We’re very reluctant to teach our 9 year old any form of martial arts with his current emotional issues so will have to take a wait and see approach, however I love the idea of a family hobby that teaches and involves exercise. Very jealous and look forward to reading about your progression.

I’m sure you’ll be back at the XL in no time.
nicetwins at 2010-03-15 20:45 (UTC) (Link)


First, I am so sorry u guys did not make it up there in time. My thought are with you guys. Second, I hope Grandma is OK, I will pray on her behalf. Third, poor Little Girl, we have def been there before w/Jess... only we were not as smart and went to the ER so we could have the experience of paying $100 for Dermabond glue (oh and $300 more afterwards... guess the glue was laced w/gold or something). Wish we had done one of those care places too. She will remember not to do that again.. for a while, then she will get right back to it (if she is anything like my peanut). Finally, go you, for smaller shirts . And having just got back from the vortex of intense family emotions/grief/stress I totally feel for you guys. Try to squeeze in at least one fun thing with the kids if you can before you guys head home. And safe journey to you.
ehowton at 2010-03-15 21:32 (UTC) (Link)

Re: Wow.

Thanks for all that. I know you know, and armed myself with some of the lessons learned you just went through. Believe me, it made my decisions easier.

And really, the kids are innocents in all of this. Today, after the viewing, catttitude spent the day at the hospital I took the kids out. We bought used playstation games, walked a nature path, had french fries and root beer floats, and played on the playground.
When we got home we played "Frisbee Soccer" on the acreage. You're exactly right, and I don't want them to remember this trip as miserable.

Oh, and I've been sipping on little tiny bottles of single malt Scotch. That helps too.
glodowg at 2010-03-16 13:59 (UTC) (Link)
Tell L that I am thinking of her. So sorry about all the drama. I have coffee and a shoulder when y'all get back.

Anything you need us to check on while you are gone?

Edited at 2010-03-16 01:59 pm (UTC)
ehowton at 2010-03-16 15:35 (UTC) (Link)
Thanks so much - I'll pass that along. d_huntress is checking on Miss Puss so that's all I can think of at the moment. Thanks again!
Missus Emm
missus_emm at 2010-03-19 13:46 (UTC) (Link)
That'll teach me to read entries downside up - I hadn't got here yet! So sorry to hear about the cousin and the grandmother. Very sad.

Your daughter looks very sorry for herself!

Nice going with the shirts!
ehowton at 2010-03-20 04:03 (UTC) (Link)
Ha! I know, right - I often find myself wondering what I missed when things don't add up right away.

She had her stitches removed today. MUCH easier time than getting them in ;)

And I love my new shirts. Can't wait to wear them into work. My wardrobe was needing a facelift.
thesweetestnote at 2010-03-20 15:38 (UTC) (Link)
Childhood injuries make great adulthood BBQ stories. The hows and whys. Most have the "my dad (or mom) told me not to and I still did then BAM!). I am really saddened to hear that you and your family are going through all this. My prayers and thoughts are with you. You are a good, wonderful man and everyone is fortunate to have you in times like this.

You should be GIVEN Polo Rugby shirts. Somebody give this man an endorsement!!!
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