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Posted on 2011.03.05 at 20:00
Current Location: 75409
Current Music: Horner - A Beautiful Mind
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Few in life prefer relaxing to a discordant cacophony, and I so so enjoy 'testing' those who say they do. I've been known to laugh uproariously in the company of those who claim to enjoy chaos when chaotic events strike their personal lives. After all, its what fuels them, no? Sadly, usually not. I don't personally understand the claim, but I've also learned to not believe those who state it to be true for themselves. Peace for many is a myth - an unobtainable goal which brings about thoughts of chubby, harp-playing cherubs while laying around drinking fine whiskey and being fanned with broad palm leaves by a harem of exotic topless women purchased with excess monetary wealth on a chase lounge over a garage filled with expensive automobiles.

I define success by how happy I am. I cannot comprehend any other definition, yet I come across some of the most miserable sons-of-bitches who honestly believe money will make them happy. If you're a miserable son-of-a-bitch, I have an eye-opening wake-up call for you: Money isn't going to change that; you'll always be a miserable son-of-a-bitch, albeit potentially one with more money. I've met happy rich people, and I've met happy poor people. Only the ignorant would think the inverse wouldn't also be true, because I've met them too. Even my own wife quipped recently, "I know money doesn't buy happiness, but it sure can buy freedom." No, I have no idea what she meant by that, and I didn't ask. You see, she's a bit of a soothsayer - a portal through which the gods occasionally speak - and I've learned to sometimes just listen. Will this divination make itself clear at some point? I have no idea.

The thing about being you, is that no matter how much money you have, where you live, where you work, what kind of car you drive, the restaurants and bars you haunt, etcetera, you're still you. Which is wonderful news for those of you at peace with yourself. Not so much for those of you who are constantly frustrated with the world around you - changing external stimuli is a fun, wonderful pastime for the well-adjusted. Those who expect a change in themselves because it? Well, frustration begets frustration. Its a vicious cycle of misplaced self-hate.

But I have seen those who have broken free. People just like you and I who have learned to become perpetually at peace no matter what is going on around them. Now-a-days, when someone snidely remarks, "We can't all be happy like you all the time," I challenge them to try. Its not magic.



I get tips on peaceful living from Marko

Comments:


Michelle1963
michelle1963 at 2011-03-07 02:08 (UTC) (Link)
Frequently it is a person's core beliefs and method of interpreting the world around him that make the individual unhappy.

For example, if a person slights me in some way, I immediately think of all the reasons the slight is unintended--the person was tired; distracted; stressed; etc. However, some would suffer the same slight and immediately interpret it as intended act of a pain--she hates me; she's mad at me; etc. The first interpretation deflects pain and maintains harmony, whereas the second, insures that any possible source of pain is gathered toward oneself. The core belief of the first interpretation is that the majority of time people do not intend to hurt others. The core belief of the second interpretation is that people are hateful, hurtful SOB's.

Neither belief is accurate 100% of the time. However, even if the slight was intended, I don't have to own it. It doesn't define me. Frankly, I really don't give a shit unless someone comes to me personally and tells me there is a problem. However, if I saw hostility at every turn, I would be miserable.
ehowton
ehowton at 2012-05-15 16:51 (UTC) (Link)
However, even if the slight was intended, I don't have to own it.

Its this that I am just now learning.
kat_rowe
kat_rowe at 2011-03-07 16:05 (UTC) (Link)
people at work don't get how I can be so perpetually upbeat, either. and, to an extent, you're right. it's not hard. we (largely) can't control what happens around us, but we can control how we deal with it

also, Marko is a beautiful young man *pets him*
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