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Posted on 2011.03.05 at 20:00


michelle1963 at 2011-03-07 02:08 (UTC) (Link)
Frequently it is a person's core beliefs and method of interpreting the world around him that make the individual unhappy.

For example, if a person slights me in some way, I immediately think of all the reasons the slight is unintended--the person was tired; distracted; stressed; etc. However, some would suffer the same slight and immediately interpret it as intended act of a pain--she hates me; she's mad at me; etc. The first interpretation deflects pain and maintains harmony, whereas the second, insures that any possible source of pain is gathered toward oneself. The core belief of the first interpretation is that the majority of time people do not intend to hurt others. The core belief of the second interpretation is that people are hateful, hurtful SOB's.

Neither belief is accurate 100% of the time. However, even if the slight was intended, I don't have to own it. It doesn't define me. Frankly, I really don't give a shit unless someone comes to me personally and tells me there is a problem. However, if I saw hostility at every turn, I would be miserable.
ehowton at 2012-05-15 16:51 (UTC) (Link)
However, even if the slight was intended, I don't have to own it.

Its this that I am just now learning.
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