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Mowing Season

Posted on 2012.04.14 at 09:36
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As usual, I wish I'd taken a "before" shot so you could see for yourself the veritable jungle it was. The weather is cool and breezy without being windy. It won't be that way for long so I'm sure going to take advantage of it now.

My son recently expressed interest in mowing the lawn. I shrugged it off and told him he could mow the lawn when he could start the mower. His mother laughed and said, "Once you do, it will probably be your responsibility," echoing my own childhood mowing adventures. I nodded in silent agreement.

Later, it dawned on me that just because my father never mowed the lawn again once I did didn't mean that I had to do the same with my son. Maybe I'll edge and weed while he mows? Maybe we'll take turns? Maybe it will be completely different where we work cooperatively in the yard. We do many other things together, why not this?

As stated before, I've discovered that many of the judgments I have about things come not from careful analysis and separating fact from feeling, but stem from a default societal view. I therefore react accordingly to new concepts with which I am faced, and would honestly remain so unless challenged. I understand now - empirically of course - that this statement requires an addendum: defaults may also include how you yourself were raised, no matter where they fall in or out of societal norms.

Challenge of ideas absolutely must preceded questioning our views; were it not so we wouldn't know what to question, or when. I don't have to raise my children like my father raised me. And if I can so easily learn something so different than my default just from the issue making itself known on the small things - for this is surely inconsequential in the big scheme of things - it fills me with confidence that I will be able to also tackle the big things as they arise.

Nothing but greatness can come from this.


suzanne1945 at 2012-04-14 15:05 (UTC) (Link)
Wow! The yard looks great! I really applaud your idea of cooperative yard work. Not only does the job get done, but you've shared a valuable and productive experience with your son.

Oh, what a tricky road it is to sort out those things that you were taught and ways you were raised from those that you really wish to pursue. Some things are definitely worth keeping, but how difficult it is some times to realize that there are other ways that may be a better fit. Even at my age, I am still occasionally hit with "Wow, why am I doing it this way." (when shown or discovering a different approach)
ehowton at 2012-04-14 21:15 (UTC) (Link)
I'm very happy with the yard. A little loving attention, and it comes to life in my hands.

Even at your age huh; so experience is a lifelong endeavor?

michelle1963 at 2012-04-14 16:14 (UTC) (Link)
It's natural to have a "default" view; impossible to consider a new one until a situation arises which provides the opportunity to question its validity.

The thing of it is not many people do question the validity of their defaults. I suppose it's because many of the defaults serve "well enough", despite the fact that there indeed might be better ways.

If your son had to mow the lawn from here on out after he could start the mower, it would probably work "well enough"; after all, it did with you and your father. That said, you both stand to gain so much by sharing this task together.

This is a perfect example of why I like to question the reason behind what I think. Unfortunately for some, I like to question my friends and family about there reasons too. This isn't always appreciated.

And the yard does look fantastic!

Edited at 2012-04-14 04:15 pm (UTC)
ehowton at 2012-04-14 21:21 (UTC) (Link)
It fascinates me.
Tomas Gallucci
schpydurx at 2012-04-14 22:21 (UTC) (Link)
I so love this avatar!
Tomas Gallucci
schpydurx at 2012-04-14 22:13 (UTC) (Link)
I remember wanting to mow the lawn. I remember enjoying it, until my male parental unit was unhappy with the results.</p>

Why do boys have such a desire to mow the lawn? I expect that the answer has something to do with rite of passage or satisfying some kind of desire to show male or adult characteristics, but seriously, what do boys do this?

ehowton at 2012-04-14 22:44 (UTC) (Link)
This is a great question! I have no idea! But I suspect your hypothesis is fairly accurate.
Tomas Gallucci
schpydurx at 2012-04-14 22:19 (UTC) (Link)
It's not crystal clear what you decided in the end; rather, when I read paragraph three, the context your words put in my mind were that of enumeration, not selection of a specific value from the array of option. Please enlighten those of us with third grade certificates of attendance.
ehowton at 2012-04-15 20:31 (UTC) (Link)
I decided to give my son a different experience than I had.
jobu121 at 2012-04-17 14:17 (UTC) (Link)
Dude, your grass is so freakin' green. Looks great.
ehowton at 2012-04-18 01:18 (UTC) (Link)
Late morning/Early afternoon light is the best.
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