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Eric Downtown

Personal Responsibility

Posted on 2012.05.26 at 13:33

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Michelle1963
michelle1963 at 2012-05-26 19:29 (UTC) (Link)
I think the opposite of personal responsibility is victimization.

I would absolutely agree. At the beginning of the post you said, I used to be so enamored with personal responsibly that I would often accept responsibility for things which were not mine to own up to. I have often done the same. However, I wouldn't say I was enamored with personal responsibility, but with the control taking personal responsibility provides.

Whether in a personal relationship, a work relationship, etc., I've often found it desirable to step in and accept personal responsibility for the state of events, because at the point one says, "Here's where we are and how I contributed to the problem," one can follow up with, "I'm sorry everyone is feeling bad (I get to be the big person), and here's what I think we should do to rectify things," which is where control comes in. That said, I do make sure my solution takes into account others wants and needs, and represents a workable compromise.

Interestingly enough, most people are so relieved that they themselves DO NOT have to accept personal responsibility that they almost always accept my suggestion for rectifying the issue. Sure they want to tweak my suggestion, make it their own, but in that moment I've just chosen the path for everyone involved and ended the negativity.

That's how accepting personal responsibility usually works. That said, I have run into individuals that are so set on not only not accepting personal responsibility, but in wallowing in their victim status that no solution is ever acceptable to them. Yet because they will not accept personal responsibility, they have no workable compromises of their own to offer.
ehowton
ehowton at 2012-05-26 22:33 (UTC) (Link)
I wouldn't say I was enamored with personal responsibility, but with the control taking personal responsibility provides.

But of course. I was addicted to happiness. Personal responsibility led to empowerment, empowerment led to being self-assured, and being self-assured ended in happiness. When you're happy for the right reasons, nothing is insurmountable.
Michelle1963
michelle1963 at 2012-05-27 01:08 (UTC) (Link)
Beautiful summary. That is EXACTLY the process as I've experienced it.
ehowton
ehowton at 2012-05-26 22:35 (UTC) (Link)
I have run into individuals that are so set on not only not accepting personal responsibility, but in wallowing in their victim status that no solution is ever acceptable to them.

I have come to learn to identify these people and avoid them like the plague. It is this scenario exactly in which taking responsibility for isn't in itself very responsible. A learning curve to be sure.
Michelle1963
michelle1963 at 2012-05-27 01:14 (UTC) (Link)
Yes. It just doesn't work, and instead brings more grief. The problem is that it's sometimes hard to identify these people until you've been down that path with them.
ehowton
ehowton at 2012-05-27 01:39 (UTC) (Link)
It is never too late to make positive change in your life.
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