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Eric Downtown

Personal Responsibility

Posted on 2012.05.26 at 13:33

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pcofwildthings at 2012-05-26 23:02 (UTC) (Link)
Michelle said what I was going to say in her first paragraph. Been there too, accepted responsibility when it wasn't mine to claim, but I can't say I was enamored of it or even that I used it as a power play to control or manage the situation. More probably it was to diffuse the situation. Ever the peacemaker.

I think victimization is in part but not entirely the opposite of personal responsibility. Some are just in the habit of blaming others and pointing the finger at anyone but themselves, though I doubt there is complete denial of responsibility on an internal level, just not outwardly admitted. I think this habit may have been one modeled for them by parents, etc., and therefore becomes an ingrained coping mechanism of a most desperate kind.

"You can't accept responsibility for a situation and be angry at the same time." Oh yeah? Ever been really pissed at yourself for something? Perhaps you can't (or shouldn't) stay angry, having accepted responsibility, but I am here to testify that it can be done.
ehowton
ehowton at 2012-05-26 23:08 (UTC) (Link)
Ever been really pissed at yourself for something? Perhaps you can't (or shouldn't) stay angry, having accepted responsibility, but I am here to testify that it can be done.

ROFLMAO! That's awesome. And yes. I think you hit the nail on the head with the "stay angry" part. I ran across something somewhere which indicated you acknowledge, grieve, and move on. But yeah, probably more difficult to do when you're the one that let yourself down.

Thanks for the challenge on victimization! I would agree wholeheartedly with your clarification. Sadly, that opens up a whole different can of worms when someone is aware of it but won't own up to it. In my mind that would be worse.
Michelle1963
michelle1963 at 2012-05-27 01:10 (UTC) (Link)
I can't say I was enamored of it or even that I used it as a power play to control or manage the situation. More probably it was to diffuse the situation. Ever the peacemaker.

Yes, I too, have used personal responsibility in this way. That one kind of sucks, but sometimes there is no other way to get people to move on.
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