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Interdependence

Posted on 2012.05.30 at 15:43

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Codekitten
codekitten at 2012-06-02 11:35 (UTC) (Link)
don't get me started on the Snow White thing...i swore i would never cave on that. i have. she freaking loves all that princess stuff....it's got to be from day care because i sure didn't introduce it.

so i just try to balance it with other ideas/activities/strengths and think it will all *probably* be ok :)

she has recently started asking me, "mommy, will i get married?" my answer - "when you're over 30".
ehowton
ehowton at 2012-06-02 12:09 (UTC) (Link)
What I didn't know about raising kids before I had them could fill volumes. I used to think that the parents were somehow responsible for molding their children's personalities. Nope. DAY ONE they were set, and individually different from each other. I was fascinated that with no information whatsoever my son gravitated toward traditionally male oriented toys and colors and my daughter traditionally female. I still marvel over it today.
Codekitten
codekitten at 2012-06-02 14:20 (UTC) (Link)
i have tried to be neutral-ish. i'm not fanatical about it but have tried to introduce cars/trucks/etc to A*. she's not interested AT ALL. same for w*...he just immediately veered towards boy things.

it's one of the most interesting real-life experiments to witness in person...i've come to the conclusion that it's mostly not up to us...and that's liberating!
ehowton
ehowton at 2012-06-02 15:18 (UTC) (Link)
I wholeheartedly agree with that conclusion. My job entails pretty much just providing them experiences, helping them learn how to think, and supporting their ever-changing dreams.

The rest, as you mention, is out of our hands!
Codekitten
codekitten at 2012-06-02 14:24 (UTC) (Link)
here's a scientific study i was reading indicating that "psychological well-being" (happiness?) is largely based on genetics. environment is largely "weak and non-significant". on one hand, it makes it seem like there's very little we can do to influence our own or others happiness. on the other hand, there's not much you can do to screw up the kids! :P

http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1467-6494.2012.00787.x/abstract
Michelle1963
michelle1963 at 2012-06-02 16:46 (UTC) (Link)
Fascinating! Twins are a perfect vehicle for studying such things. I'm almost always amazed at the degree genetics influence mood, behavior, etc.

Thanks for sharing!
Michelle1963
michelle1963 at 2012-06-02 16:43 (UTC) (Link)
LOL!
ehowton
ehowton at 2014-05-28 04:00 (UTC) (Link)
Is that a John Williams Waterhouse avatar? Big fan here :D
Codekitten
codekitten at 2014-05-28 11:54 (UTC) (Link)
I think Drew Barrymore would be so flattered if she heard you say that!!!

https://www.google.com/search?q=drew+barrymore+poison+ivy&rlz=1T4GGNI_enUS558US558&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ei=tc2FU6vNEq7NsQTT1YCoDg&ved=0CAgQ_AUoAQ&biw=1920&bih=992

When she and I were about that age (17?) we looked very similar.

So I also will take it as a compliment :D
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