ehowton (ehowton) wrote,

How To Not Suck

While is always entertaining to read, rarely do I find such evaluative wisdom within its pages - which is exactly what I found in David Wong's article, 6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person.

I ran across this link on someone's page who really needed to hear it as it hailed back to a discussion in 2008 concerning practicing something - anything - at which you wanted to excel, as opposed to not. Much of the opposing logic in that thread is nearly incomprehensible. This article elucidates why. While I encourage you to read the entire text yourself and won't give away the spoilers - those absolutely should be read first hand - I will highlight his premise and conclusions. If you disagree with them, read the article to discover how he backs up his radical-yet-logical claims in such a way that even you can understand.

This also ties in quite nicely with my post on action. As he nears the bottom of the list, you might notice its all about manifestations of ideals - without which, nothing *actually* ever occurs:

  1. If you want to know why society seems to shun you, or why you seem to get no respect, it's because society is full of people who need things. Either you will go about the task of seeing to those needs by learning a unique set of skills, or the world will reject you, no matter how kind, giving and polite you are. You will be poor, you will be alone, you will be left out in the cold.

  2. The difference in...two attitudes - bitter vs. motivated - largely determines whether or not you'll succeed in the world. You don't have to like it. I don't like it when it rains on my birthday. It rains anyway. Clouds form and precipitation happens. People have needs and thus assign value to the people who meet them. These are simple mechanisms of the universe and they do not respond to our wishes.

  3. I'm asking what do you offer? Are you smart? Funny? Interesting? Talented? Ambitious? Creative? OK, now what do you do to demonstrate those attributes to the world?

  4. People quit because it takes too long to see results, because they can't figure out that the process is the result. The bad news is that you have no other don't hate yourself because you have low self-esteem, or because other people were mean to you. You hate yourself because you don't do anything. Not even you can just "love you for you" -- that's why you're miserable...Do the math: How much of your time is spent consuming things other people made (TV, music, video games, websites) versus making your own? Only one of those adds to your value as a human being.

  5. How do all of your interesting thoughts and ideas manifest themselves in the world? What do they cause you to do?

  6. The human mind is a miracle, and you will never see it spring more beautifully into action than when it is fighting against evidence that it needs to change.

    • Intentionally Interpreting Any Criticism as an Insult

    • Focusing on the Messenger to Avoid Hearing the Message

    • Focusing on the Tone to Avoid Hearing the Content

    • Revising Your Own History

    • Pretending That Any Self-Improvement Would Somehow Be Selling Out Your True Self

    And so on. Remember, misery is comfortable. It's why so many people prefer it. Happiness takes effort. Also, courage. It's incredibly comforting to know that as long as you don't create anything in your life, then nobody can attack the thing you created.

Tags: happiness

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