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All Wounds

Posted on 2013.02.23 at 00:00


michelle1963 at 2013-02-23 06:44 (UTC) (Link)
Perception. A process by which individuals organize and interpret their sensory impressions to give meaning to their environment. However what we perceive can be substantially different from objective reality. People's behavior is based on their perception of reality; not what reality actually is.

Organizational Behavior by Robbins & Judge

The thing of it is some people are aware that their perception of reality may not mirror objective reality or another person's perception of it. When faced with conflict or unexplained behavior, they gather more facts in order to get closer to objective reality; they communicate with other individuals trying to understand their perceptions and what those perceptions are based upon. And when dealing with another individual who does this, usually mutual understanding can be realized.

But what of those who believe their perception is the same as objective reality? They tend to be unyielding in their belief, uncompromising in their dealings with others, and generally dissatisfied because life does not work as they believe it should. Makes for some angry individuals. Time cannot heal those wounds and neither can they. They don't have the tools. Nor do they believe the tools exist.

Edited at 2013-02-23 06:46 am (UTC)
ehowton at 2013-02-24 06:51 (UTC) (Link)
People like that also seem unable to accurately articulate their perception which makes things far, far more difficult. Its like battling an entire army of strawmen single-handed. Not even the most adept can defend against those numbers. The wisest know not to try.

Reminds me a little of my Mythological Creatures post :/
michelle1963 at 2013-02-24 16:59 (UTC) (Link)
Yes. If a person can't even describe their perception of reality, then how can communication even occur? Much less any kind of understanding? Especially traumatic when you care about the person and / or must coordinate with them.

I have yet to objectively decide if there is something clinically wrong with their brains, they have a personality disorder, or if their need to see things a certain way, their need to be right (as they see it) overrides all sense of self-preservation. All of the above?

For my own sanity, when confronted with such as these, I am trying to be compassionate by choosing to believe there is probably a brain malfunction somewhere, and where possible staying as remote as I can when I run across them - physically if possible, but always keeping all of my emotions under lock and key. They seem to feed on them.

Mythological Creatures was a great post, btw! Thanks for providing the link.
michelle1963 at 2013-02-24 17:02 (UTC) (Link)
Straw men, the classic moving target. Don't forget their close cousin, the red herring.

Edited at 2013-02-24 05:04 pm (UTC)
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