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Posted on 2013.03.19 at 00:00


ehowton at 2013-03-19 23:46 (UTC) (Link)
I can see that. Funny how it presupposes our parents didn't experience the same fears or doubts we may experience, or that there may have been errors or flaws in how they were raised, especially given the very different cultural circumstances surrounding the environment in which they were brought up or any specific stressors which may have influenced them during the entire course of their lives. My mother has changed her point of view on many things as she coursed through the stages of life, even recanting some of the things she once believed. She did this through a series self-questioning and logical deduction. But sure, how she raised me was *perfect* because she's my mom?

But your right - everything is up for question except that which is not. Good times.
michelle1963 at 2013-03-20 00:41 (UTC) (Link)
Yes. In reference to parents having fears and doubts: My dad was always angry at his parents; his father in particular. Blamed his dad for a lot of the emotional/psychological problems he endured. Then my dad came across a letter his dad had written to his own mother (my dad's grandmother) when he was 35. In the letter, he had imparted to his mother all of his fears, all of his concerns and doubts.

I never read the letter, but my dad told me, it made him realize that his dad had been young, confused, and stressed, and doing his best to deal with life. It allowed my father to see his father as person, not just dad, and it allowed him to forgive his father.

The concept that parents aren't perfect, aren't the last word, is an idea that everyone would say they understand at the abstract level, but most cannot apply it at the emotional level.
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