Jim Kukral's 13 Reasons You're Not As Successful As You Should Be From his book Business Around a Lifestyle Volume 2.
What I realized after I thought on this awhile was you can be FANTASTIC at any 12 of them. But suck at just one, and all the others mean nothing. This. This is why you fail (italics mine):
I don’t think there’s an easy way to put this. I have to assume that you’re lazy. Every single successful person works their butts off to get where they are. It’s ok to be lazy. Just admit it. But don’t whine about not being rich and successful, ok?Do they honestly think they will fool us with words while we watch the actions of their behavior or do they really not know this about themselves?
Only a few people in the world are part of the lucky sperm club. You and me? We gotta work to get what we want. Quit thinking you are owed something. You’re not. Get to work.Yet those I have met couldn't tell you WHY they deserved something, they just did. They have created an entire ethos from it.
You are afraid, plain and simple. Afraid of looking silly. Afraid of what your friends and family will say. Afraid of everything. Look, you’re either going to stop being afraid, or you’re not. Nobody can convince you to stop. Imagine though... what awaits you when you stop with the fear excuses?This stops me from many things. Initially. I work through it. And that is called courage - being afraid and doing it anyway.
You may not realize it, but the people you associate with might be negative [orifices]. They could be soul-sucking beings who don’t want anyone to be successful. Get rid of them, now! Surround yourself with successful people. People you want to be like.The most difficult part here is those negative people THINK THEY ARE POSITIVISTS! And they are very, very good at having you believe it to. Thing is, it almost never adds up. Over time, their behavior screams otherwise. Its a very confusing time trying to reconcile what you hear with what you see.
#5 Stop Thinking
How much do you want to bet you have paralysis by analysis? You think way too much about what you could or should do. Doers get what they want, and everyone else gets what they get. Stop analyzing and start doing.Yes and no. I mean, I get what he's saying here, but you really do have to strike a balance; remember the Nixon quote, "The man of thought who will not act is ineffective; the man of action who will not think is dangerous."
#6 No Goals
You plan nothing. You believe that someway, somehow, everything you always wanted will just magically happen. So you “play it by ear” and wait. You need goals to shoot for. Otherwise, you’re just treading water.Keeping in mind the "magic" may be happiness goals rather than means goals which can cloud the issue if you are pursuing the wrong thing.
There’s no “they”. There’s no secret group of people that controls your success or failure. You’ve made that up to make you feel better about yourself. The truth is you, and you alone, control your success in life/business/everything. It’s easy to blame “them” though, isn’t it? Weak.
#8 “X” Factor
You can’t do it because you’re not pretty enough. Or don’t have a strong personality? You don’t have the “X” factor? Wow, what an unbelievably lame excuse. The truth is even jerks, idiots and boring people can be just as successful as anyone else. Your problem is you don’t believe it yet.Persistence over brilliance. I know those who are "holding out" to "make it big" once they get their "idea" rather than just working hard every day and practicing being successful.
#9 You Waste Time
You’re a classic time-waster. You spend hours and hours every day working on not-working. You do things that aren’t productive. How are you ever going to get anything done, or reach any goal if you keep wasting time? You’re not. So you might as well give up now if you’re going to keep this path.I'll admit, I do have my moments with this one.
#10 Social Bullshit
You spend way too much time in social media land. You waste probably about 50% of your productive hours of the day doing this. The sad part is, you know it, but you can’t stop. So you can’t get anything done that matters.My favorite is those who tell me all this networking is going to really help them out when the time comes, trading it for things like, "skill" or "knowledge."
#11 Small Thinker
You think way too small. You are constantly looking only a day or a week ahead instead of years ahead. Because of this, you never get anywhere, and you never lead; you always follow.
#12 Don’t Want It
You don’t really want to be successful. Sure, you like to dream about it like everyone else. But in your heart you are afraid of what might happen if you really get it. That’s B.S. fear your brain is feeding you. Success is change, and it feels really, really good. Tell your brain to shut the [foolishness] up.I ran across a quote the other day that said something to the effect of, "If your dreams don't scare you, you aren't dreaming big enough." And while I understand what the quote was trying to convey, I don't think being freighted of an uncertain future is necessarily healthy.
You never believed that it’s possible. Society taught you that only a few “exceptional” people get what they want. Everyone else should just settle. If you really want to believe that, go ahead. The rest of us will be at the front of the line because we believe.And yet there are those who shun my revolt against the safety of the herd. Those who cling to societal norms without understanding why the mechanisms are in place seemed doomed to spend eternity there; sadface.