PSYCHOLOGY TODAY; OCTOBER 2013 - KINGS AND QUEENS OF CHAOS:
Borderline personalities are characterized...by volatility...Emotional dysregulation and impulsivity are at the disorder's core. Sufferer's swing from happiness to despair to fury, often in minutes, and each feeling is vastly disproportionate to its trigger.
volatility - evaporating rapidly; explosive
emotional dysregulation - having completely the wrong reaction
impulsivity - acting without thought or consequence
swing - to cause to or oscillate in different directions from a fixed point
despair - loss of hope which can affect thoughts, behavior, feelings and sense of well-being
fury - intense rage
disproportionate - magnitude of inequality by comparison
trigger - stressor event
There's an inner sense of emptiness that can be haunting. Uncertainty about who they are often keeps them from following a clear path in life. Seeding the emotional storms is a hypersensitivity to rejection. Borderlines are quick to assume others are excluding them - and quick to react to that perceived rejection.
sense - feeling or perception
emptiness - having none of the usual or appropriate contents
haunting - appearing frequently; recurring persistently
hypersensitivity - falling far outside baseline reactions
quick - easily provoked
assume - belief presupposes truth without proof
rejection - deliberately excluded for social reasons
react - to act in response to an agent or influence
perceived - belief based interpretation
Borderlines' all-consuming fear of rejection stems from a bone-deep terror that the people they're close to will abandon them. The fear of abandonment commonly drives borderlines to seek confirmation that they truly matter. Their overwrought rejection sensitivity lead borderlines to asses other people and situations in all-or-nothing terms. Borderlines engineer the ending of the very relationships they covet by wearing out friends and loved ones.
all-consuming - completely engrossing; the most important focus
fear - emotion induced by a (usually future) perceived threat
terror - great fear
overwrought - extremely and/or excessively agitated
all-or-nothing - grossly inaccurate representations; binary; black-and-white
In 100% of the borderline support websites which aid in relationship retention, the borderline acknowledges their disorder, and are in active therapy. In reality, not all borderlines believe in any of this crap.
Holding on so tightly to something which did not exist, burning it to memory, creating an immutable belief out of it so it could never be dissuaded, then orchestrating their greatest fear just to say, "I told you so. I was right. I win," as they stand amidst the ashes of their hollow victory.