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Posted on 2013.10.22 at 23:40
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After authoring Outrage I gave a lot of thought to objectification. Unsurprisingly, experiences have led me to change my view on this over the years. When I was a young idealist, everything fit neatly into their boxes, and if high school and minimum wage jobs taught me anything it was that we were each valuable as individuals. Had my life-goals ceased to advance from that point, I can't imagine how confused I might be when faced with something a little more unrealistic.

I suppose it started when I enlisted. Which is a lot like indentured servitude, or being objectified. I became an asset of the United States - nothing more - and was thrilled with the arrangement. Now that I work remote, I have a string of managers who come and go, most of whom I've never met, let alone spoken to. Hard to see them as a valuable and unique individuals, as I assume I appear similarly to them. Again, its an arrangement I've agreed to and have no problem with it whatsoever. At some point, my number will come up, and it will be entirely impersonal. I wholly accept those terms.

Sexual objectification is actually not much more complex. I was 40 before it dawned on me losing my virginity to the sister of the girl I was seeing had nothing whatsoever to do with me - I was a pawn in a decades old sibling rivalry likely they weren't even aware of. When this realization hit me, I laughed aloud. One on-again, off-again lover of mine told me flat out that my platonic attentions to her as a person didn't sate her the way being used as an object could. At the time I was shocked at her declaration, but she was speaking temporally - something I didn't grasp at the time and totally makes sense to me now.

So while psychologists could lament the harm done to young women who felt they had to objectify themselves because of a video game, a little impersonalization in this world might make everyone a little less offended, and I bet I'm not the only one who would love to see more selflessness.


michelle1963 at 2013-10-23 13:33 (UTC) (Link)
Another form of objectification between the sexes is when a woman regards her spouse as being wholly responsible for their financial well-being - treating him as a financial asset. Yet about 50 years ago these roles were condoned. Women were "mothers" and men were "breadwinners." Objectification of both genders based on the role they were supposed to play. Never took into account that maybe some women wanted to be doctors and lawyers and some men would be fantastic stay-at-home dads.

But there seems to be a special vehemence reserved for sexual objectification of women. In a pure form where some sociopath views women as an merely an extension of his sexual gratification, then yes, it is highly distasteful. However, reality is that men do enjoy seeing the sexual aspect of a woman. I do not believe this constitutes objectification unless it is the only thing he sees.

Likewise, women who are honest with themselves, sexually objectify men too. I have been around women who were not shy about vocalizing such thoughts - at least to other women.
CeltManX, Devlin O' Coileáin
celtmanx at 2013-10-25 02:40 (UTC) (Link)
"Likewise, women who are honest with themselves, sexually objectify men too."

That is so true. One 4th of July in our old neighborhood in Ft. Worth our female next door neighbor and her young children had joined my wife, myself, and our children to watch the fireworks in downtown from further up the hill we lived on. While walking home she started talking to my wife about how much she enjoys watching the teenage boy across the street mow the yard without his shirt on. I called her out and said how sexist that was because if I said how I liked watching the teenage girl across the street mowing the yard in a bikini, they would be jumping down my throat at how sexist I was being. They both agreed that I was correct and that they would be calling me sexist. Coincidentally, the teenage girl across the street was mowing the yard in her bikini the next Saturday, she had never done that before and my neighbor saw it too and we both laughed at the coincidence.
ehowton at 2013-10-25 03:00 (UTC) (Link)
I love this story!
michelle1963 at 2013-10-25 03:09 (UTC) (Link)
That is too funny!
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