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Father's Day

Posted on 2015.06.22 at 10:15


suzanne1945 at 2015-06-22 15:54 (UTC) (Link)
Amen, brother. I was raised with holidays being grand events, but my husband seemingly had an aversion to forced celebrations. In his case, it was because holidays were always hyped before hand to be some fabulous spectacle and they never reached those heights. Therefore, holidays became a source of disappointment. I gradually began to see his view that celebrations should be because of something of the moment, not because of a date. When I received a gift from him, it was because he saw something that he thought I'd like, not because he felt obligated by a date. Now I find so many social expectations very odd. One being trips to the cemetery on assigned days to remember those that have passed. My memorials are made by remembering that person on daily or weekly remembrances. So while we got to this place from entirely different life experiences, it's nice to hear that someone else finds these "symbolic sociological constructs" meaningless.
ehowton at 2015-06-22 16:02 (UTC) (Link)
I kinda do the same thing to my own children. I describe future events as being SUPERFANTASTIC IN EVERY IMAGINABLE WAY POSSIBLE! When it fails to live up to their expectations, I look upon their little disappointed visages and explain to them it is our job to make them such - not the event itself.

Its true it doesn't work all the time, but it does get them out of the house on occasion (I'm not above lying to them, apparently), and hopefully teaches them we are responsible for our own enjoyment of forced activities. Time will tell, I suppose!

But I am absolutely with you on the gift-giving :)

Edited at 2015-06-22 06:15 pm (UTC)
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