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Indiana Jones

Addressing a Decade-Old Conversation

Posted on 2016.09.28 at 14:10
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I've been calling my daughter, "Ma'am" since she was born; before she could even understand speech. I do this for many reasons - One, being from Texas, its damn near automatic. Two, I hope it actively displays respect for her, and [when engaged in conversation] her opinions. Third, as all parents do, I hope to be a positive role model in her life She's a freshman in high school now which means I've been calling her, "ma'am" for 14-years. Yet sometimes, when I'm distracted, or excited, I will slip and call her "Sir." No, I don't know why. Perhaps its some unconscious patriarchal thing that has to do with my upbringing - I dunno. Regardless, for those of my friends who are pronoun sensitive, please understand its me, not you. I've been told, "Surely, after all this time, you should be able to get it right." Yes. I probably should. But if I occasionally slip up on my own daughter after FOURTEEN YEARS, I don't know what to tell you.

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Artemis' Chew Toy
tattooedraven at 2016-09-29 19:56 (UTC) (Link)
You know an attorney who rents office space in our building calls everyone, "Hey Guy." It took me along time to get used to it and not take it personally because growing up, I was often mistaken as a Guy. Just like my youngest son is often mistaken for a girl, which makes him chuckle and smile now, but it didn't always when he was a few years younger.
ehowton
ehowton at 2016-09-29 20:15 (UTC) (Link)
I use, "dude" unisexually. My GF just rolls her eyes when I express it at her. "Dude!" lol. At the same time, I always run across grown men and women who dislike being called, "Sir" and "Ma'am" because they feel it unnaturally ages them. Like you said, its just something you have to get used to because its not done will ill intent. Hope all is well with you!
Tomas Gallucci
schpydurx at 2016-10-14 01:23 (UTC) (Link)
Occam's Razor: you were in the Air Force for a number of years. You work in an industry that is dominated by men. It's highly likely that you say or have said "Yes, Sir!" more often than you have said "Yes Ma'am". And I wouldn't be at all surprised if in your subconscience you equate assertive men with power. Consequently, in moments of mental fatigue or preoccupation, you answer automatically with this bias.
ehowton
ehowton at 2016-10-14 15:57 (UTC) (Link)
Brilliant hypothesis!
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